The Story of a Heartbreak!

 THE BREAKUP STORY

So you’re over there hurting…deeply. 

You miss your last relationship. 

You miss the company. 

You miss the expectation that you have plans. 

And you especially miss having someone to talk to and say good night to. 

But then there are those days (or moments) where you suddenly have this confidence that you’re so much better off without them. 

Or how you held your breath a lot just to avoid rocking the boat, so to speak. 

Or how a lot of your needs were NOT met despite being with them for so long.

So the question is Were you just in a relationship, or were you in a conscious relationship?

This is the million-dollar question.

• So what exactly is a “conscious” relationship?

For me, being in a conscious relationship means that both of them in a relationship are doing the inner work to heal & are coming together through willingness and choosing each other every single day. 

• Well, what’s the difference between a conscious relationship and a regular relationship?

Being free to be ourselves (our authentic, true selves) is what invites conscious partners into our lives.

Not being attached to the outcome of the relationship does not mean you don’t care what happens! It also doesn’t mean that you don’t have fantasies about how the relationship will turn out.

What it means is: you’re more committed to the experience of growth than you are to making the relationship “work.” 

• How can we start becoming more conscious and attracting conscious love?

Fear is a conscious relationship destroyer, and it’s sneaky as heck. 

Let’s say you’re the person who did EVERYTHING for your ex (you jumped through hoops for them, said yes to something they asked for even when you were busy, did so much and they didn’t say thank you nearly as often as you’d liked) and yet they still ended things with you.

But when you take an honest (SERIOUSLY honest) look at what the driving force for doing all those things was:  

Most likely, it’s fear.

Fear of them leaving you. Fear of getting in a fight. Fear of not being good enough that you have to constantly be proving yourself day in and day out.

Fear can be a powerful force that keeps us in the wrong relationships for so long, and yet we hardly even know it’s driving us.

You’ll start watching how your new partners do things for you that your ex would always respond with excuses as to why not to do it. 

You’ll feel lighter, more joyful. 

More you. 

That is what it means to become conscious. To be free to be yourself, and to find someone who loves you not for what you do or how much you say yes, but because you’re you. 

CONCLUSION:

• Love, ultimately, is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territories.

Sometimes we treat love like it’s a destination. We want that peak feeling all the time, and when it’s not there, we’re not satisfied with what the relationship has become. This is missing the whole point of love.

Love is a journey and an exploration. It’s showing up for all the varied nuances of your relationship and asking yourself, “What would love do here?” The answer will be different every time, and because of this, you’ll get to grow in ways you never have before!

When there’s a problem in a relationship, it isn’t YOU vs THE OTHER PERSON, it’s YOU & THE OTHER PERSON vs THE PROBLEM.

Blog by Samhith

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